trysts with trust

trust is a very dicey thing...its like setting up yourself to trip. I've written about various aspects of trust earlier also. Today i cover another aspect...the basis for trusting...

while to a certain extent trust is a matter of risk appetite, trust is also a matter of logical deductions. The whole thing of why you would trust one person with your credit card details and not another.

First let me supply some credentials...i make and reject friends on the net, trains...anywhere. My credit card has been used by many diff people at diff points of time, i've had million $ worth of software code on my personal comp at a given point of time...etc etc

so when i say i know about trust i'm not exactly speaking from the back of my pants

Coming to the funda of logical deductions...what are these logical deductions, its the combined derivative analysis of words, demonstrated actions, situations and inherent play of emotions.

Lets take each of these in part and then in whole:

words: trust me, i love you, it'll be done, it won't happen again

Demonstrated actions: did the person do what he said, did the person do beyond what he promised, did the person undergo an inconvenience in favor of u, were the actions of no personal benefit to that person, when taken a step forward did the person reciprocate

situations: was there a possibility of reasonable doubt, could the situation be considered ambiguous, were there unbiasable evidences to point towards some conclusion

inherent play of emotions: greed, lust, fear. These three can color your own vision as well as that of the person being thought of. In down times or dicey times its usually not the strongest person who will last with you but someone who is not afraid to lose, does not suffer from greed or does not lust; which ofcourse never happens...so you need to figure out what that person has greed for, what that person lusts for and what that person fears.

And when you think of all these...together u will be able to logically deduce...what needs to be logically deduced.

An important aspect which could easily slip from your thought, that in all this you are judging the person...not as to how that person is...but there trustability...but u still are judging and one must be conscious of this fact...

while i have given all this gyaan...i've basically seen two kinds of people...people who trust easily and people who find it very hard to trust and its mostly based on their own fears than about the people around them...

so after all this piece of useless information which you can't use...i leave you with one nice link

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