in god we trust...everybody else pays cash

remember the time u learnt swimming...and the instructor after the initial few sessions took the class to the deep end of the pool and said jump...and we were like...wtf!!! and he said trust me...

or the time u learnt cycling...

the first trek where ure buddy said...trust me...i'll take u thru...u won't fall or get lost...

remember the times...when that trust was shaken...by your parents, friends, god...

ok now imagine this...think of a person..u believe u trust...imagine now that u r in some kind of ransom situation and a bomb went off and the money bag is in ure hand...and pistol has come in the hands of the person u believe u trust...and then u see him point it towards u...what thoughts come in ure mind?

trust is a very dicey thing...it essentially means believing in someone...when all the evidence points agaist that person...

i remember once as a kid...my mom didnt let me go cycling one evening coz it was windy and dusty...and i cried (ok i was small...though i still do get wet eyes sometimes)because i was like why am i being persecuted...all i wanna go is cycling and later when the dust storm had died out...she said now u can go and i was like two hours are already wasted...whats the use now...

why did i cry...had i believed myself that the dust storm was really pretty serious i would myself have ducked under the bed (yes i'm like that :P )...but i didn't and i didn't trust my mom's judegement at that time...

trust is a very funny thing...luckily through childhood and early experiences and lot of pondering...i've come to now easily recongnize ppl i trust and ppl i don't...and it's not that the ppl i dont trust are bad ppl (villains of the movie)...its just that i don't believe i can trust them to be honest with me...thats why i make frnz (and foes) very easily...be it in a party, a train journey, orkut...

there's also a lil bit of science to it...but let that be

the problem about trust is...it can get broken also...it can be because u made an assumption...it could be because the person did break ure trust...

and the worse thing is...it really hurts when u trust someone and they break ure trust...

but just as u don't stop breathing if u get a bout of tuberculosis...ok too severe..a bad cough and cold...same way u can't stop trusting

its a subconscious thing...even if u feel u r not trusting...u trust the milk co. to make the right powder for ure kids...u trust ure driver with ure life...

there are things where one should avoid keeping things on trust...like when someone gives u a bundle of notes...u should count it...because if u take it on trust...and by mistake a note fell short...or got extra...and neither of u came to know till later one of u did...and then u will never know what happened....and the trust will get broken...

othello (omkara) is about the same thing...make things as explicit as u can if there's a possibility to do that...and where u can't...well...then u gotta trust...just like u gotta breathe

oh btw...that ransom scenario...probably that person has the gun to shoot u...probably its to shoot the villain standing behind u...who knows ;)

the bro code part1

popularized by the series 'how i met your mother' ... in existence for as long as friendship and women have been weighing heavy on the minds and hearts of men.

This post spurted on by a colleague who narrated that a friend of her's started going around wid an ex of another common frnd....what is the world coming to...

so here are the bro codes for immediate ref.


1. for those ppl who are unclear what a bro is...it your chuddy buddy...the guy(s) whom you trust. The following are the tests for knowing whether you think of your friend as a friend or a bro:
a.)A bro is more important than any new girl who comes into life
b.)You share all your worldly exploits (matters of the heart) with him
2. For an evening out...you can give your gf priority over hanging out with bro.s
3. In case you and your bro happen to fall for the same girl...only one of three options is feasible
a.) both mutually decide to hit on the girl and whoever she falls for is the lucky one
b.) both mutually decide to chuck the girl out of their lives...her bad luck
c.) one of you two decide to back out
in case you feel there is a fourth option...you two are not bro's stop kidding yourselves
4. If your bro was seeing the girl seriously or for longer than a month...you shall not hit on your bro's ex...no matter how comfy he is with the idea

If there are any queries on other aspects of bro code you can send them in here...as and when required an updated part2 of the bro code will be published

For the love of people

I had this quip where i had said...man is supposedly a 'social animal' but these days we're more 'animal' than 'social', and probably if we were more social than animal there would be more love than hate in this world since there would be more people we care for...

And when we talk about social networking sites like orkut or blogger i think they provide a wonderful opportunity for people to reach out and connect to others, I have been blessed i have met many an interesting people through here and in the process a little of me has mixed with them and a little of them is dissolved into me. And while safety and trustability remains an issue, some common sense and the lord's blessings allow me to be risky and trust people's good side and dish out my mail address and cell no. almost indiscriminately...

and yet i feel i have achieved nothing...The day i believe when a million pakistanis and a million indians simply choose to walk towards the borders...with the armed forces of both the countries watching not knowing who to shoot and how many...is when probably we will be able to say we've become social again...that will be a true festival like the breaking of the berlin wall...

I'd like to end up wid words that are conjuring up in my head:

fakiron ke ghar baarat naee aatee (the house of saints don't light up for their marriages)
unke janaazon ki shaan hoti hai (it is their death that becomes a celebration)
unki khusheeyon mein shareeq naheen hote (people don't gather to celebrate their happy occassions)
unke jaane pe aasoon ki baad aati hai (it is when they are gone that their lovers cry for them)

fakiron ki baat hi alag hoti hai (saints are a different breed)
woh kissi ek ke naee hote (they are not for any one)
poori duniya unki hoti hai (but the whole world is their family)
unke chaahane waalon ki line mein khuda bhi shaan se khada hota hai (saints have so many people who love them, that even god proudly stands in queue to meet them)


do read the book...three cups of tea...it is about an american mountaineer...who has dedicated his life to building schools for children especially girls in the remotest areas of pakistan and afghanistan